There’s an ancient Hawaiian ritual, that’s extremely powerful and very useful for problem solving. You may have heard of it before it’s based on the law of attraction and called Ho’oponopono.  It’s a model of reality, an idea that we are ultimately responsible for everything that happens around us.  This might sound a bit far out there or a bitter pill to swallow, however I’m going to explain it to you today and some of the ideas on how and why it really works.
You may have heard of Joe Vitale. He is a spiritual teacher, and best known for his appearance in the movie, The Secret*. His is the author of over 50 books such as The Attractor Factor*, and Zero Limits*.  One of his books   “Zero Limits,” is about Dr Hew Len an amazing psychologist in Hawaii, And the story goes like this…. Dr Hew Len was put in charge of a hospital in Hawaii. The hospital housed mentally unstable criminals.  So we’re talking really, really disturbed individuals.

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These psychiatric patients were not only mentally unstable, they were also extremely dangerous. They would attack people. Because they were very hard to work with, they were put in awful conditions because of the state of their mind. Many of them were in straitjackets and in padded rooms.
And nothing the doctors did could actually help these patients. There was a low rate of helping these patients get back to some degree of normal. They had a rapid turnover of staff until Dr. Hew Len came in. The staff, nurses, doctors were leaving the hospital in droves.
Dr Hew Len practiced the Hawaiian art of Ho’oponopono, a spiritual forgiveness ritual. As part of this ritual, Dr Hew Len practiced accepting total responsibility for everything happening in the hospital.
He didn’t need to come into contact with the patients. One by one, he took their files and he would do a repetitive prayer to himself, that comes from these Hawaiian mystical teachings. The Ho’oponopono forgiveness practice for each of them.
Interestingly, in this model, is the idea that we are ultimately responsible for everything that happens around us.  Now whether you believe this or not is irrelevant. The idea is that by accepting total, full, personal responsibility, you give yourself the power to shape the world.”
Now, the Ho’oponopono prayer goes like this,

I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.

As he was reading the files of these patients, he had no control over the patients. He wasn’t responsible for their mental state, but he would repeat, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”
In the case of Dr Hew Len and this hospital, the rate of these patients recovering went through the roof. Staff began staying, and in four years, the hospital was completely transformed. It became a place of peace. Patients who were once criminally insane were walking around freely, transformed individuals. And Dr Hew Len said he did it without changing much about the treatment or anything else. It was all about accepting responsibility that he could control the very fabric of the universe and what was happening in the hospital.
He said he could do so by going into the ‘zero state’. A state where he could remove all judgment from himself. All ideas of what is right or what is wrong, and accept total responsibility for what is happening.
Joe Vitale, who wrote the book about Dr Hew Len, said,
“If you were in a situation in an office with workmates you don’t like, you are responsible for that”.
“If you’re in a business where you have an a$$hole boss, you are responsible for that”.
“If you’re a doctor in a hospital, and you have a disturbing patient, refuses to cooperate, you are responsible for that”.
And the way to use this would be to repeat this to yourself,
“I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.
I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.”
So the question is, who are you saying this too? Are you saying this to the mentally unstable patient? Are you saying this to your boss?  Well let’s look at why this works?
There are four simple steps to this method, and the order is not that important. Repentance, Forgiveness, Gratitude and Love are the forces at work here and these have amazing power.

Step 1: Repentance – I’M SORRY

As I mention above, you are responsible for everything in your mind, even if it seems to be “out there.” Once you realize that, it’s very natural to feel sorry (or remorse) for something in your consciousness has created that idea.
“I’m so very sorry that someone I know is hurting from something I said or a situation that I realize I have caused”.
This realization can be painful, and you will likely resist accepting responsibility for the “out there” kind of problems. So choose something that you already know you’ve caused for yourself.
  • Health problems
  • Weight?
  • Addicted to nicotine, alcohol or some other substance?
  • Do you have anger or other “issues?
Start there and say you’re sorry. That’s the whole step:

Step 2: Ask Forgiveness – PLEASE FORGIVE ME

Don’t worry about who you’re asking. Just ask! “PLEASE FORGIVE ME”. Say it over and over. Mean it. Remember your remorse from Step 1 as you ask to be forgiven.

Step 3: Gratitude – THANK YOU

Say “THANK YOU” – again it doesn’t really matter who or what you’re thanking. Thank your body for all it does for you. Thank yourself for being the best you can be. Thank God. Thank the Universe, whatever your belief system. Thank whatever it was that just forgave you. Just keep saying THANK YOU.

Step 4: Love – I LOVE YOU

This can also be step 1. Say I LOVE YOU. Say it to your body, say it to God/spirit/Universe. Say I LOVE YOU to the air you breathe, to the house that shelters you. Say I LOVE YOU to your challenges. Say it over and over. Mean it. Feel it. There is nothing as powerful as Love.

That’s it. The whole practice in a nutshell. Simple and amazingly effective.

So it doesn’t matter who you are saying it to, whether it is yourself or a higher power responsible for all reality around you. Know that forgiveness, love and gratitude are not just words, they are high frequency vibrations, and this is the  language of the Universe
What Joe Vitale explains is is really happening here is,
“I’m sorry if any past conditioning, judgments, or imperfections in my belief of the world is causing me to manifest this outcome that I have right now. Please forgive me for this. I did not know how I took this on, because it may have come on to me when I was a child. Thank you for healing me. I love you. Let’s stay connected.’”
What Dr. Hew Len was doing was he was praying to that part of himself that is divine. Clearing himself of all judgment, all false beliefs, programming or indoctrination that he may have taken on through childhood
He says,
“These beliefs, whether they are conscious or unconscious are shaping your world. Accepting total responsibility for the patients and using Ho’oponopono, incredible things happen.”
The uses a kind of therapy to helps remove all kinds of negative thoughts from your sub conscious memory. Including thoughts limiting your success, slowing or stopping you down completely. The type of thoughts which make you believe that a particular thing is not achievable. Hence, you will always find yourself not being able to achieve what you want.
What we’re doing is returning to a state, the reset state. Repeating these words is the recipe for the reset. It’s resetting what went wrong and rewriting it with something that’s right. By taking you back to the the ‘zero point, the point which is the beginning. The stage where you will believe in anything you want to believe. You’ll feel renewed with this new kind of energy, the spirit to reach out and touch your dreams with your bare hands. This is going to happen, with this ancient Hawaiian practice of Ho’oponopono.
The best part of Ho’oponopono is you can do it yourself, you don’t need anyone else to be there, you don’t need anyone to hear you. You can “say” the words in your head. The power is in the feeling and in the willingness of the Universe to forgive and love.
Take a negative emotion, a person who’s acting negative in your life or any other negative situation and heal it.   You can heal aspects inside of you and you can heal aspects outside of you.


Step 1 – I’m sorry
Step 2 – Please forgive me
Step 3 – Thank you and,
Step 4 – I love you

Kirsty Terry, Msc, BSc, R(Nutr), RTT™, AFMCP™

Kirsty is a Healthpreneur and uses the modalities of Functional Medicine, Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT™) and Bioenergetic Health Screening to help her clients achieve their optimum health and vitality naturally.

Kirsty is passionate about how the mind and body works together in creating the onset of illness and combines psycho-emotional, energetic, physical and meta-physical approaches for a truly comprehensive, radically wholistic approach to health and wellness.

She helps her clients to get to, and understand the root cause of their health challenges, and helps them address the lifestyles changes required break free from managing symptoms and achieve their optimum health and vitality.

For anyone who is sick, stuck or just fed-up with the ongoing pattern of managing only symptoms. Her unique combination of modalities provides a truly comprehensive and wholistic approach to achieving health which are non-invasive, painless and a drug-free.

When I’m not trying to heal the world, I’m a Zumba queen, or blissing out with a good meditation